Have you ever had a traumatic experience where you saw something disturbing but didn't feel upset until a few days afterwards?
When we experience stressful events, we may not fully experience the effect of those events until after the event has happened. This is because our mind speed doesn't always equal our body speed. We may experience a 'delayed reaction' that can cause us to feel anxious, to numb out on alcohol, food or cigarettes or worse, experience depression.
Lets take a closer look. The body sends out signals, but the mind doesn't always pick up on the alerts until it really starts to register an uncomfortable feeling in the body. We may feel heat in the tummy or lightness in the chest for example. Don't worry - its temporary, and it will go away however, over time, the more we ignore it, the more the sensation can intensify, especially if our stress levels are already high.
Anxiety is the body's way of signalling to the mind "Hey! The Fire Truck is out and ready to address the threat, but the Alarm Bell in the head is unplugged!". The trouble is, by the time we feel the sensation, very often it is difficult to pinpoint the origin of the anxiety.
This is where EFT comes in. Emotional Freedom Technique is a simple tapping method that helps to identify what is behind our anxiety by tapping on the acupressure points connected to the hypothalmic points in the brain. The hypothalamus is the part of the brain responsible for fight or flight so when the nervous system is elevated, it is important to learn how to connect body to mind so that body-mind talk can happen, and the threat the body perceives, can be converted into words. When this happens, and there is an inner dialogue between body and mind and this is what I call 'bodytalk'. When this dialogue happens, just like magic, the anxiety signals experienced in the body, become settled and vanish.
If you would like to learn more about EFT, then I invite you to attend the my 1 day workshop detailed in the Events page in July at the Relaxation Centre of Queensland. We will learn how to do EFT and you will get to experience first hand the wonders of this technique.
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What I have learned is that anxiety is usually the first signal that something in our life is not right or balanced. This is usually when your body, the most intelligent part of you, is sending out warning signals. If you are surprised, so you should be - popular belief is that it is the mind that is to blame for all this malarky, but in reality, the neuroscience (Besel Van Der Kolk, author of The Body Knows the Score), now shows it is the body that has the smarts on what is reaaallly going on for you! That said, the way I approach anxiety, it is that both mind and body are contained in the same biochemical suit (thanks, Einstein). When one signals the other and vice versa, it means something that may be beyond your awareness, is causing a life imbalance or an upset is going down in your system. By system, I mean your body system, your family system, your workplace system, your country system etc - all the systems, you as a human being are connected to.
Why should we care? When anxiety is not addressed, things just can get worse over time. There is no need to worry though as much can be done before getting to that point.
When you feel anxious...
Start to consider lifestyle changes - food, sleep, diet, alcohol, exercise, work patterns, stress management to set yourself up for a calm, harmonious lifestyle. A lifestyle, that some say, calls the body to go into the 'rest and digest' mode, as opposed to the fight, flight or freeze mode.
If you find that taking these steps don't help reduce symptoms, then it is time to see your counsellor. That's me!
Sometimes chronic anxiety has deeper roots in your family system, your physiology, your thinking patterns, your life situation or past development or event trauma. That's when you come and see me. Together we can explore this area, as I meet you where you are at, and as we become fellow travellers, I will be able shine a light in the dark places so you can discover what is true for you.
I work with you, using a range of tools and techniques, in a respectful, non-judgmental and supportive environment, within the limits of what is doable for you learn new ways of being, locate the entanglements of your systems, and to build your confidence back up again, until you realise, you don't need to see me anymore because you are doing just fine. That is when my job is well and truly done!
I am passionate about being the catalyst for change for the better, supporting the greater good to create causes and conditions to benefit everyone down the track.
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