Gaslighting

Gaslighting is more common than you think. In most relationships, it happens at least once a month. 

Any of these ring a bell?

• That's not what I meant (excuse-plainig)
• You're making such a big fuss (trivialising)
• I said / you said (lawyering)
• Stop acting crazy
• Can you hear yourself?
• You need help
• I have not had that experience with anyone else before
• You are imagining things
• Why are you so upset? I was only kidding?
• You're over-reacting
• How dare you accuse me of that (self-righteous power move)
• What you did was REALLY BAD because (counter-attack to put you on the defensive)

If you hear any of these.... it means that you are being gaslighted. You are being convinced that your reality is not real. If you need clarity, then do the Work of Byron Katie, and get your friends to validate that you are not going crazy. Your feelings are valid, real or perceived.