The Volume We Hear Things At

Sometimes we may hear things from our partners that may not contain volume, yet it seems to affect us as if someone was shouting at us. This is often due to the level of emotional energy that sits behind what is being said. Volume isn't always the problem. It is the emotional tone in voice, that often ampifies for someone who is already hypersensitive to criticism from their partner. What is being said at volume 5, might carry an emotional tone of 9. This is where the problem lies. Regardless of what we say, we tend to telegraph how we feel without even realising it.

To remedy this, it is important to keep your tone in your awareness - both of you. By managing your tone, you will stop triggering your partner. By listening carefully to your partner, and responding mindfully, you will notice over time that trust starts to build and you will both start to feel alot  better about your communications.